2010 Newsletter Archives
As a service to our clients, we are pleased to provide you with this monthly e-newsletter. We hope that the information and articles are helpful and supportive.
December 2010
- Should I use an Attorney who is not a Matrimonial Attorney? – Here how a judge answers this question
- Creating a Separation Agreement – Also known as a “Settlement Agreement”, this contract spells out the terms of your divorce.
- A Peaceful Resolution – An orientation to the dispute-resolution options in the divorce process, including the pros and cons of collaborative law.
- A Good Night’s Sleep – Chances are, your sleep patterns have been disrupted by your divorce. Here are some suggestions on how to restore the balance.
- Inspirational Quotes – To help you through this difficult time.
November 2010
- Happier Holidays! – Being “home for the holidays” is going to be different this year, but with planning, creativity, and courage you can cope with — and even enjoy — the holiday season.
- A Show of Support – What you need to know now about spousal support.
- A Matter of Faith – Working with both traditional psychotherapy as well as spiritual practices — such as meditation, prayer, or yoga — in parallel can aid in divorce recovery.
- Bachelor Parent – The new challenges that you’ll face as a bachelor parent can be overwhelming at times, but the rewards of raising good, happy children are immeasurable.
- Jokes About Marriages – A collection of short conversations between men and women.
- Jokes About Marriages – A collection of short conversations between men and women.
October 2010
- Dealing with Legal Fees – Regardless of which attorney you select, you must understand fee arrangements and be aware of how to keep your legal costs reasonable.
- A Satisfying Agreement – If you’re thinking of taking the plunge for a second time, you should seriously consider having a prenuptial agreement or marriage contract.
- Good Karma Divorce – Creating a “Personal Manifesto” can be a healing exercise and a moral compass through your divorce journey. Let good karma, or good action, be your guiding principle.
- Are Your Kids at Risk? – If you believe your children will be unaffected by your divorce, you’ll be surprised to learn that all children of divorce suffer emotional injuries. Here’s how to minimize the damage.
- A Fair Negotiation – Negotiation skills will help you resolve disputes and to build better interpersonal relationships.
September 2010
- When Things Change – Find out if and how you can modify your divorce decree after the fact.
- Be Prepared – When you’re negotiating your divorce settlement, preparation is the key to success. Are you really ready to negotiate your future?
- Grieving and Healing after a Profound Loss – We need time to reconstitute ourselves after a loss. Learn how to deal with the loss of a relationship.
- 50/50 Child Access: A Passionate and Heated Debate – See what the public and the divorce professionals have to say on this topic.
- Discovering Authentic Love – Learn from the mistakes you’ve made and understand how to avoid repeating them. Find out about the 7 types of love masquerades.
August 2010
- On the Case – How to choose the best lawyer for you.
- Charting Your Expenses – Your family’s lifestyle and reasonable needs are two components of expenses that play a part in a divorce. The task of budgeting your family’s past, present, and future expenses may seem daunting. Here’s some help to get you started.
- Stepping off the Roller Coaster – The divorce roller coaster includes periods of euphoria followed by deep lows. Right now, you may be feeling like an unwilling passenger on a wild ride, but the ride won’t last forever.
- Building a Happier Future – For more than half of all North American children, divorce is a fact of life. Perhaps now more than ever, you are acutely conscious of wanting to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but suddenly everything seems harder and more complicated
- The Art of Negotiation – How to reach an agreement that’s both acceptable and affordable.
July 2010
- Working with Your Attorney to Get the Best Results Possible – A description of what information your lawyer needs and why.
- Your Money Personality – This article will help you increase your self-awareness as you gain an overview of your present relationship to money and of your money personality in general.
- Full Esteem Ahead – Reclaiming your self-esteem after divorce is a critical part of the healing process. Here are some suggestions to help you on your way.
- Successful Step Families – How to create a happy, functional stepfamily.
- Reinventing Relationships – Your marital relationship is over, but what about your relationship with your in-laws, their relationship with your children, or even your relationship with your ex-spouse’s new Significant Other? What is healthy and appropriate? Since no one has written the new rules and codes of social conduct for relationships engendered by divorce, we asked some experts to share their insights with us.
June 2010
- How to Get a Divorce – A step-by-step layman’s guide.
- Avoiding Common Pitfalls – Certified Divorce Financial Analysts™ offer their best tips to help you avoid some of the most common mistakes made by divorcing people.
- Think Positive! – You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can choose how to react to – and how you’ll feel about – your circumstances. Here’s how to use the magic of optimism to create a positive future for yourself.
- Children’s Reaction – Here are some of the reactions most commonly experienced by children immediately after separation or divorce. By knowing what to expect, you’ll be better equipped to help your children deal with the ones they experience.
- What is Collaborative Divorce? – An alternative to divorce litigation in which all parties work together to create solutions – without going to court.
May 2010
- Advice from A Judge – A Family Court Judge talks about effective preparation for court — and how to achieve results in court by utilizing all available resources.
- Financial Health Check-Up – Take this short quiz to find out whether you get a clean bill of financial health — or if you require emergency care.
- Curing the Divorce Hangover – A “divorce hangover” can be healed and regardless of whether it was by choice or not, it can be the beginning of a happier, more satisfying one.
- Handling Visitation – Your child has two parents who no longer live in the same home, so you each must take turns living with the child — even if it is only for a few hours or for a weekend. Here’s some advice for the custodial and non-custodial parent.
- One Singular Sensation – Why it’s more than okay to be single.
April 2010
- Reaching Renewal – Scripting your post-divorce life can be exhilarating, rewarding – and a little overwhelming. Here are some suggestions to help you along your way.
- The Benefits of Divorce Mediation – How the mediation process can diffuse the conflict and improve communication in your divorce.
- How Do Property Disputes First Go Wrong? – Think back briefly to the beginning of your marriage. In preparing for a property settlement, reflect upon how property ownership issues affected you even before your wedding.
- A Divorce Attorney Who’s A Perfect Fit – How to find a family lawyer tailor-made to suit your divorce’s unique needs.
- Dating and The Single Parent – Re-entering the dating world can be stressful and complicated — especially when you have children. Here are a few tips to make dating easier on you and your kids.
March 2010
- Surviving Divorce During Recession – How to prepare yourself to deal with the financial realities of divorce — especially in this tough economy.
- The Secret to a successful divorce – According to this Family Court Judge, the answer to a “good divorce” is simpler than most people — including most Judges — think.
- An Approach to Resolving Child Access – Maximize your parental time while yielding to the best interests of the children.
- Keeping Your Divorce Costs Down – Judge Lynn Toler to share some advice on how you can keep divorce costs down
- How to Quiet Your Mind – Tame tension during your divorce to reduce your stress level and help you get through the process.
February 2010
- Divorce Versus Annulment – Learn the differences between a divorce, a legal annulment and a religious annulment.
- A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction To Parental Alienation – In a healthy divorce both parents help the child through the divorce as equals.
- Divorce and Your Emotional Needs: What You Should Know to Survive Your Divorce – Some of the most difficult stages involve emotional growth and balance.
- Avoiding Financial Disaster – Here are some tips to help you avoid some of the common financial pitfalls of divorce.
January 2010
- Should you stay or go? – If you’re wondering whether ending your relationship is — or was — the right thing to do, or whether you can make a troubled relationship work again, read on.
- What you should know about QDROs – Here are the top four mistakes people make when it comes to QDROs.
- Once You’ve Told Your Children about the Divorce – The following are some guidelines for helping children best adjust to the changes a divorce will bring in the early days.
- The Parent Left Behind – How to make it easier on the Parent Staying Home
