Chronically angry exes have trouble seeing their part in the demise of the marriage. They blame the other person as a way to avoid looking at their own problems and role in the divorce. High-conflict people usually don’t “get over it” and will seek targets of blame (i.e., you) instead of seeking help.

One way of understanding this is to think of your high conflict ex as an addict: he or she is addicted to anger. They need to stay mad at you in order to keep grief and shame at bay.

So how do you keep from losing your marbles when you have to interact with a perpetually angry ex? Read more

The relief of extricating yourself from an unhappy marriage can propel you into a rebound relationship – or dating merry-go-round – that can range from merely distracting to, worse, an ill-advised second union. While there’s no hard rule about how long to wait to date post-divorce, it generally takes a year or two to process what went wrong in your marriage before you’re emotionally prepared to make smart romantic choices.

When you do decide you’re ready, here are some time-tested ground rules for sane dating can help you attract partners that enhance your life – not drive a freight train through it. Read more

When you’re in the throes of divorce, it’s easy to think of all the ways your ex has wronged you. It’s easy to blame him or her for the downfall of your marriage, as well as your current state of misery.

But blaming your ex for messing up your life, as well as your children’s lives, won’t change the past — or the present.  The only thing blame will do is make you exponentially more miserable. Ready to let go and start moving on in 2018? Here’s how to take the first step.  Read more