Does your ex ever make you feel like you’re crazy? Do you doubt your own judgment, but can’t figure out why? If so, you may be a victim of a form of psychological abuse known as gaslighting. The term was taken from the 1944 thriller Gaslight, in which a husband convinces his wife she’s going insane to distract her from his criminal shenanigans.

The first step in protecting yourself from the gaslighter’s abuse is to recognize the techniques they use to manipulate reality.

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When dividing qualified retirement accounts in divorce, a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) can direct dispersement of the account. There may be a big gap between the time of the divorce and retirement, however, and this can cause confusion. What happens to a QDRO upon retirement? Here’s a look at this common question.   Read more

When one parent attempts to manipulate and disrupt their child’s relationship with their other parent, this is parental alienation. Parental alienation is serious and very real issue. But how do you prove parental alienation in court? Here’s our answer. 

Question:

My ex is pitting my daughter against me by telling her that I didn’t love her when she was a child and that I had wanted a boy. My ex has also instilled fear in her that my new partner and I plan to kidnap her and that it is not safe to be with me. I have evidence of this in some emails. My daughter is now shy around me and often cries at the beginning of our parenting time. Twice in the past month she has refused to get in my car.

Can I go to court to have my ex sanctioned in some way for these mind games she’s playing with our child? How do I prove that I am being alienated as a parent? Read more